When you are in love with someone, you want that person to love you & only you. You want them to love you fiercely and to stay with you forever. Love is selfish, so, there is nothing wrong if you also become a little selfish in your relationship. Every relationship can work smoothly for a longer time if there is a little space in between. Therefore, it is necessary for you to cut off from everything for a while and give yourself quality time. It will recharge yourself and help you to get rid of all the tensions from your mind. Indulge in a spa session or go for a long drive. Watch your all-time favourite movie with a tub of caramel popcorns all by yourself without being interrupted.
Here are some reasons for you to learn why you need to be selfish.
1. First Learn, Why You Need To Be Selfish In Your Relationship
Yeah, it might sound quite self-centered or selfish, but it is good to be like it to make your relationship last longer. Let’s be direct, being in a love relationship has always been a quite ambitious hypothesis. And on the top of it, it seems being caring and altruistic is portrayed in every woman’s heredity. They don’t mind doing extra efforts to give comfortable zone to their relations and sometimes they even forget their own ambitions and desires. Here comes up the need to be a little self-esteemed in your relationship. It does not mean everything is all about you only. This need is just for you to realize your needs and place them before everything else.
2. Love Yourself And First Make A Relationship With Yourself
Honestly speaking if you are not happy with yourself, then you can’t make your relationships happy as well. First, you need to make a relationship with yourself. You need to love yourself and realize what are the things that make you happy in your life. Your happiness depends on you only. Your life partner can only share that happiness with you. But, remember it’s upon you how to create that happiness. Learn to please yourself and fulfill your wishes & desires before you start investing your love in your partner. Trust me, if you’ll stay happy, only then you’ll be able to make a happier relationship with your partner.
3. Everything Should Be Balanced
When you’re in love, you commit to that person and all of the hardships that come with commitment. Other things can come first, but they cannot always come first. There should be a balance in between. You have to evenly distribute your selfishness and selflessness when you have someone who is depending on you. You can be career-focused, but you cannot be career-consumed. Careers are important, but so is love and a balance needs to be struck between the two. Love your career the way you love your partner; both need a lot of attention. But sometimes, they need space in order to continue loving you back.
4. See World With Your Own Eyes
Stop following stereotype myths. Make your own choices, opinions and perceptions. Remember all the positive or negative experiences that you learned from your life. Marry at the age when you feel it is the right time. Maintain a balance with your relationship. Have kids when only you and your partner have mutually ready for this. Last but not the least do things that bring ‘you’ happiness. Take your own decisions, stop depending on others and don’t let anyone else be the master of your life. If you give respect to yourself and love yourself, then you’ll get respect & love from others too.